Customs and savoir-vivre in China

Some advice:

To keep above all:  show evidence of an infinite patience! Endeavor to keep your calmness in all circumstance.

    * It is necessary to make itself a rule to speak freely and without detours of all topics that one wishes to land. Avoid as much that possible the indiscretion that can be bothersome and you don't throw in superficial critiques of Chinese particularities that astonish you and that you don't understand. Avoid to throw you free in political considerations notably.
    * When you greet a Chinese, a fast handshake is considered like acceptable on behalf of a stranger. A bigger familiarity is reserved to the true friends that one cannot hope to make itself/themselves at the end of some days or some weeks of stay in the country.

 

    * The strangers should limit themselves to the strict minimum in their reciprocal demonstrations of sympathy or affection (embraces, walks hand in hand, arm over, arm under, etc.). That two men or two women hold each other by the hand is considered however like quite natural.
    * It is not necessary to deliver itself in public to disputes! If one has an account to adjust with a Chinese, it is necessary to avoid all scandal or loud scandal in presence of other Chinese. He is to contain itself/themselves and to wait to be able to settle the business deprived of it, safe from the looks and the indiscreet ears, better.
    * In China, men and women answer the same label. This behavior changes little by little in the big cities, but the foreign women should avoid clothes and too seeing or defiant makeups. A display of jewelry is just as malvenu. For private meetings at people, useless to dress too positively,;  on the other hand, some business appointments impose a holding of strict city of quality.
    * To lose the face is the worse of the things that can arrive to a Chinese. To make lose the facing someone is considered like a behavior of an extreme gravity. It is one of the reasons for which the Chinese only express very little directly their feelings and overtly.
      It is not necessary to formulate demand therefore when one knows advance that this one would not know to be satisfied. Indeed, a " no!" implies a loss of face that will put the two interlocutors in a very embarrassing situation. Chinese, in order to avoid these bothersome findings, will often be content with conjuring the question one will answer by a smile that means that it is time to pass to something else.
    * The punctuality is required for the appointments and official or business invitations. In the private meetings, the Chinese agree of them " margins" reasonable.
    * The practice of the gratuity is more and more widespread in the hotels, restaurants and other activities of services. The Chinese that fix you give you a helping hand expects to a "gesture" on behalf of the stranger.
    * One doesn't debate the prices displayed in the stores. On the other hand on the free markets or for some very important purchases, the Chinese accept the bargaining that they practice with the smile and in the good mood.
    * It is necessary to respect the interdictions to photograph when they are indicated (the military facilities are always forbidden, by definition). Some sites are allowed after payment of a right. If one wishes to photograph people closely, we recommend to ask for the permission of it the concerned persons.
    * He is natural. Chinese to speak of age, the weight, the family, the incomes, etc. will Say someone that he enlarged since the last meeting, is not insulting, on the contrary! * He is normal for a Chinese to eat his soup of noodles or other ingredients while inhaling food with a big noise, all as he is normal for him to throw the bones under the table or to spit on the floor (to the country). Of the countries of " savoir-vivre" essayent to inflect the behavior of people with more or less of success.
    * Guest in a private capacity by Chinese (that it is restaurant or at home), one will bring one or the convenient gifts:  fruits, strong alcohols - the French cognac is appreciated very -, an even living fish, or something that either in relation with the favorite pastimes of the hosts (compact discs, cassettes, books illustrated on life in West) and also a small packet for each of the children (toys, sweets). The young generations townswomen appreciate a beautiful bouquet of flowers gangways more and more (" to the western") for the mistress of house.


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